As much as you do not want to be in a secret relationship, not everyone deserves to know you and your secrets. And certainly not all friends and even family members are good enough to know about the details of what goes on in your relationship.
Having a support system is great, and having trusted people to confide in is just amazing, too; but no matter how small your circle is, or how much you trust them, some details of your relationship need to remain between you and just your partner.
Even if you must share and seek advice, you have to be really selective in doing so. (Tell You All)
Here are three reasons why:
- It strengthens your relationship
By hoarding the most private information and details of your marriage, you become obliged to work out differences without external assistance or influence.
Being able to move away from the rough patches of your relationship on your won is great for your relationship because you are reaching decisions based on your personal understanding of your relationship, not from someone else’s perspective of what is right for you or not.
This is the best way to be in a relationship, except when it becomes unreasonable to not seek assistance from trusted sources.
- Shuts out bad advice
By keeping the essence of your relationship out of circulation, you actually leave no room for people to pass judgements and give unsolicited advice on how things should be between you and your partner.
- Pressure is reduced
If you are keeping your relationship between just you and your partner, you are not getting external, irrelevant advice on where you and your partner should be, and what you should be doing as a couple.
This reduces the pressure and you can both move the relationship at a pace that suits both partners.
If details of your relationship is being kept on a really low key, you are on the right path.
Please don’t stop.