There are so many days when I only see my children from the outside. There they go, rushing off to school. In they come, straight to homework, sports, music or, I hate to admit it, video games. I hug them and ask them about their day. They hurriedly answer, and then they’re off again. Even at bedtime, when I want the world to slow down so that I can cuddle with them and talk to them, the clock pushes us to hurry and finish so that they can go to sleep.
That’s when I pull out my From Me to You journal, my secret weapon for connecting with my children. iMom founder Susan Merrill came up with this idea for her kids because she felt like she was missing parenting opportunities. The journals let me know what my kids are thinking, believing, and feeling. It fills our relationship with connection, understanding, and love.
I open the journal and turn to a page with a question that catches my eye, If you could change one thing about your life right now, what would it be? I write, Hmm, I wonder what you’d like to change… is it something that I could help you with? Love, Mom
I slip quietly into my daughter’s room and lay the open journal on her nightstand. I put my son’s journal on the counter near his bathroom sink. The next evening, I find the journals laying on my pillow with their touching answers written inside. I write back and on and on it goes with different questions shared and answered. Those written words lead to real conversations. Now that I know what’s in my children’s hearts, I can encourage them and give them the exact kind of support and love they need.
You can journal with your children too. You will not regret it. Here are 4 benefits of using From Me to You with your child.
1. No more guilt about missed relationship opportunities.
No longer do you have to worry about missing an opportunity to encourage your child because you are caught up in the chaos of schedules. No matter how busy your day gets, your child will get to read your heartfelt words before drifting off to sleep.
2. More opportunities for open communication with your child.
Is your child an introvert, or maybe just a boy who has difficulty verbalizing his emotions? Maybe your daughter is wanting advice on something but is nervous to see your reaction. From Me to You provides a pathway to communicate about any topic, without pressure, judgment, or fear. If your kids aren’t asking you, they are getting answers from someone else. Let it be you.
3. Discussion of deeper topics that may not come up in normal conversation.
Kids pick up a lot of muddled information from school hallways to YouTube and beyond. They are naturally curious but often hesitant to ask for clarification. Left alone, truth becomes muddled in the minds of our young children. Journaling often reveals spots of confusion and presents an opportunity for discussion.
4. A keepsake of developing thoughts, experiences, and personalities.
Memories are fleeting. The journals provide a lasting keepsake of your child’s development as well as a keepsake of their relationship with you. You and your kids will treasure them!
Culled from iMom