Hi Nifemi, my name is Chioma and right now I am very confused, and I’m in need of some advice; if I should leave a man I have aborted for? I would appreciate it if you could help me.

I met my boyfriend while I was 14, and we have been dating ever since. This year would be the 7th year we have been dating, and he has always been so good to me, but he recently changed. He rarely calls me and when I tried to reach out to him, he barely gave me any attention. I tried to talk to him, and begged him to open up to me; and when he finally did, he said he was not in love with me anymore and we should go our separate ways. I tried to beg him but he told me his mind was made up, and he wants nothing to do with me.

The thing is, I have had three abortions for him and I can’tbear to leave him because of that; but he seems to be adamant that he doesn’t want to be with me anymore. Should I just leave him or wait for him to come back considering I have aborted three babies for him?

I will be expecting your response soon.



Hi Chioma, I am very sorry about what you are going through, and if it makes you feel any better, there are some ladies out there going through the same thing too.However, I will be very frank with you; the fact that you have aborted three babies for him doesn’t mean you should stick with him, when he clearly doesn’t want you anymore. If you want to wait for him because you love him or something, I could tell you to give it a try, but if it is purely because you aborted three babies for him, then my advice is ….NO! Don’t do that.

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Also, I’m sure by now you would have known that having an abortion for a man is very wrong, and it is something you shouldn’t consider, or try to do anymore; as a result, I wouldn’t dwell too much on that. However, you need to think about the rest of your life. Having an abortion for him was a mistake, but you don’t have to stick to a man just because you made a mistake for him. You need to leave the past in the past and seek a better future for yourself. Frankly speaking, any man who allows you to have an abortion for him isn’t a man you should be with, in the first place. I would advise that you  seek God, work on being a better person for yourself, and find a man who would also help you become a better person and love you like you truly deserve.

My dear Chioma, I wish you all the best.


Nifemi Adekunle

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