Have you ever blamed yourself for saying yes instead of saying No? Well, you don’t have to feel guilty because learning to say no is a skill we must acquire in the journey of life. You cannot say yes to everything that comes your way.
Although, you don’t have to turn down every request without thinking it through because a lot of opportunities come from saying yes. Some of them are meeting new people, expanding your skills and giving help to the ones who need it the most.
Saying no is something most human race struggles with. After all, we don’t want to hurt those we care about. We don’t want others to see us as selfish or irresponsible person.
When we say no, it brings up all sorts of fears. Fear of the unknown such as people disliking you or saying all sorts about you. The truth is bitter and taking a bold step to doing the right thing could be a difficult one to take.
Saying NO protects your time and energy. Therefore,
You must be true to yourself, your convictions and your priorities
You feel guilty saying no when you don’t have a firm grasp on your priorities and convictions.
Do you have a goal you need to accomplish? If yes, then having a deep knowledge that saying yes means you would be standing on platitudes while saying no means you are true to your priorities and convictions, which is important.
When no becomes easier to say, it is an assurance that you have made the right decision.
You need to acknowledge that you cannot do everything
If you say yes always, you are not going to have enough time to do anything. This will cause you stress and worry as you will not have enough time for yourself. Knowing and understanding that, it is ok to not do everything, which will really help you when saying no.
You have to say no without apologizing
This can be scary at first, but, once you know the best way of saying no to someone, it seems much easier. Apologising means that you are guilty of something and saying no is nothing to be guilty about.
You need to realise that you do not need to apologise because you are unable to do what they desire. Also, don’t sound rude, you can even offer another option for them.
Learning to say no is also having a go-to phrase. It could be “thank you for asking but, I have other commitments, so I won’t be able to help you with that”.
This is a really great strategy for you especially when you are likely to panic when asked questions on the spot.