In recent times, ‘happy’ and ‘family’ have become two words that are rarely used in the same sentence. The rate of divorce has increased over the decades and sadly, the children bear the brunt of this separation. Check out the world population review of divorce rates in different countries. Even with these demoralizing statistics, some families remain strong and happy; yours can be too, if not happier. To this effect, below are 7 tips for a happy family.
Set Family Ground Rules
The first mistake couples make is not having pre-defined rules for their family. Contrary to what some may think, having family rules do not pose a restriction in any way; rather they define what makes your family unique and different from others.
For instance, after marriage, you can both agree to minimize the rate at which you relate with the opposite sex to avoid upsetting or hurting your spouse’s emotion.
Another basic family rule is being accountable. You should be accountable by taking due responsibilities for your actions. That way, your partner will know you do not take him/her for granted.
Be Appreciative and Give Commendation
Never underestimate how far a simple ‘thank you’ goes in strengthening family ties. Wives and husbands should be appreciative of each other always. A little “thank you” can go a long way to make your partner feel encouraged. Parents should also commend their kids for being good. They should also thank them for doing what they are expected to do. Commending them for making your parenting easy and effective as that would give them more push in the right direction.
Do Not Transfer Aggression
No matter how hard it may seem, try not to transfer the aggression of being stressed or anything else you are going through, onto your partner. Don’t do the same to your kids as well. If however, you did this because you could not control it, be sure to correct things immediately by apologizing.
Don’t Over Spend and Save for Rainy Days
The feeling of financial insecurity can make members of a family angry over the smallest issues. Do not put your family in this kind of situation. Have a stash somewhere and initiate budget spending. A contented family usually is a happy one.
Forgive When You Need to
Harbouring unnecessary resentment usually escalates into dislikes for the other party. Learn to forgive your partner even before he or she apologizes. That way, you won’t only be treating yourself well; you will be doing your home a whole lot of good too. Your children should grow in a happy environment to avoid them having psychological issues in the future.
Have Family Talks
This is a time when all family members pour their hearts out to those they love and trust. This is a bonding time for everyone. You should always have time to have a hearty communication with your spouse and kids. If there is an issue that is disturbing you, speak up. Don’t hoard your feelings or it might affect the way you react to things.
Following these 7 tips for a happy family will give you that happy family you desire.
Chima Rachael J.